Lately, I have seen more and more ladies either keeping their last names or hyphenating her two last names when she gets married instead of just taking her husbands name. I just don't understand it to be honest, I wish someone could explain it to me where it makes sense. There was never a doubt or second thought about if I would take my husbands name. To me it was a given. To me it's disrespectful not to especially if you dont have an actual reason, and honestly there is no real reason to keep your name. Maybe I'm just old fashion in this regard but I couldn't imagen looking my husband to be in the eye and saying "hey, so I know you asked me to marry you but I'm just going to go ahead and keep my dads name, is that okay?" Never would happen. I plan to get my old last name back but it will be my middle name not my last name not hyphenated with my new name. People say they hyphenate it because than when things come in their old last name they don't have to worry about changing their name...umm no if your name is hyphenated your last name is now legally both names not one of the other when you so choose to use it. This is just a topic I will never understand.
Ladies if you get married swallow your pride or independence and take your husbands last name because lets be honest you are married your independence is out the window. Thats why you get married. If I can get rid of my last name being the last Silipo in my line of family so can you when I'm sure (unless your husband is a complete idiot) you wont be passing on your last name to your children, so it doesn't matter in the long run anyways. That is just my thought on this subject. If you can explain to me why women keep or hyphenate their names I'd love to know...seriously.
Another note. Life is way too short to go through it unhappy. I'm sure everyone has heard that little saying and thought it or said it to someone else but its completely true. I have learned that recently well in the last year or so. Of course I've always known that but it's different actually realizing it and letting yourself believe in your own life. If you aren't happy. Change whatever doesn't make you happy. Some things of course it's harder to follow through with right away but if you put the ball in motion it'll get there, like a job of course you have to find another one before you just quite the last one. But look for a new one don't just wait for one to pop up, it'll never happen for you that way. Other things it's instant. If the people around you aren't making you happy, tell them and if it still doesn't change move on. You can never solely base your happiness on another person you will never be satisfied and you will never be completely happy, you yourself need to make parts of you happy as well. But don't stick around if the other person is aware (meaning you told them not just hinted at it) and nothing is changing. It took me a long time to figure that out on my own and actually start living it. If you aren't happy with the way you look change it. I don't mean run out and do anything crazy. But if it's a weight issue fix it eat healthy, exercise, do what you have to do to be happy with yourself.
Don't settle for less than what makes you happy! Find something to believe in, find someone to talk to, find a love that makes nothing else matter.
Those are my pieces of advise for you. Either you take them or you don't.
Have a good day and a Happy Life you deserve nothing less than that. =]
